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Posted: January 18, 2022

We strongly recommend that you seek help from a speech-language pathologist if any of the points listed in the pictures below apply to your child.  All of our services are FREE.  Call 623-6363.

Originally published on ASHA by Emily Ferjencik on May 12, 2019 - The Best Toys for SLPs Are the Toys That Do Nothing (asha.org)

Pediatric speech-language pathologists often get asked about toy recommendations for young children. It makes sense because we often use toys in sessions to keep children engaged in learning. So, which toys should we recommend to parents?

A recent study by the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) compared traditional toys to electronic toys. The report concludes—not surprisingly—that traditional toys result in better child-caregiver interactions. These interactions provide multiple communication-learning opportunities. So how can we help parents look beyond advertising  that promises toys will teach children ABCs, numbers, shapes, and other seemingly important preschool skills?

The influence of electronic toys on a child’s development gets a lot of attention, but let’s focus specifically on toys helpful to little ones learning to talk. Notice, I wrote “helpful” and not “toys teaching little ones to talk.” In fact, toys cannot teach children communication. They are simply tools SLPs use to engage children in an activity so we can teach children communication.

Toys as tools, not teachers

A child who can imitate sounds and words might imitate sounds and words a toy makes, but does this mean the child learned to communicate? I say no. They learned to imitate. Repeating an electronic toy can’t teach a child to request, comment, protest, command, ask and respond to questions. Furthermore, it takes a person to truly teach children the social uses of language—like gestures, facial expressions, voice changes, intonation patterns—as well as how to listen attentively.

When a child focuses on a toy’s lights, buttons, music, sounds, switches and second languages, it might be challenging to engage the child in anything else. Especially while traveling or waiting, parents often give children access to handheld devices to encourage them not to engage. These “educational electronic toys” more commonly teach a child to be quiet.

When we help children learn to talk, we don’t want quiet!

When I help parents overlook the attractive allure of “learning toys” in favor of activities and toys to support communication development, I ask them two questions:

  • What words would your child want to say?
  • What words would you want your child to say?

Listing the child’s preferred words may include favorite people, foods, actions, or objects. The parent’s preferred list of words may include greetings and social niceties, such as “please” or “thank you.” Families also include words on their lists specific to their routines and traditions.

Toys to create context

Using the lists, help parents explore contexts in which to teach those words. Then, recommend toys to create those contexts. For example, if food words feature prominently on the lists, I might suggest pretend food or a toy kitchen. If saying “hi” and “bye” appear on the list, then try toys with people and doors. For action words—such as “go, stop, up, down, fast”—get out cars, play ball, or dance.

In general, I use toys in sessions—and recommend them to parents—that don't need instructions or batteries: The toys children can play with in countless ways and that spark the imagination. If you have to stand in the toy aisle and read the box for more than a minute to figure out what the toy does, you may want to move on.

Choose toys to encourage interaction and creativity. Stick with traditional toys like blocks, dolls, puzzles, books, simple toy cars, and balls. The less a toy does, the more the child can do with it. The more a child can do with it, the more opportunities for interaction it allows.

Sometimes the “toy” isn’t even found in a store. Empty boxes and containers become some of the most enjoyed toys for little ones. In fact, you may be the best toy of all!

So, the next time a parent asks about toys to help with speech, suggest toys that do nothing.

Posted: August 17, 2021

It’s common for adults to try to encourage conversation by asking questions.  We like to see what a child knows but this can be difficult for young children. Saying “say” and asking questions when children are learning language can be a lot of pressure.  Instead, try describing what you and your child are doing and keep it simple.    

When we reduce questions and make comments instead, children can hear clear models of the words during play and daily routines, and they are able to choose whether they want to respond or not.  This doesn’t mean that you should avoid questions completely.  Asking and answering questions are an important part of language development.  However, it’s important that we balance questions with comments.  Try to make at least 3 comments for every question that you ask. 

When you do ask your child questions, remember to give them at least 5-10 seconds to respond.  It takes young children longer to process what we have asked them and to respond.  If they don’t respond, answer the question for them so they hear the language model.

Remember, commenting creates less pressure and often leads to more communication.  Your child will learn faster this way!

Posted: August 9, 2021

“What’s that?” is a question that many parents tend to use a lot with their little one.  While it is okay to ask this type of question occasionally, if we overuse it, children can feel like they are being tested and pressured to talk.  As a result, asking too many “test” questions can actually reduce the amount that your little one communicates with you, which is not what we want!  Language development should be fun, engaging, and pressure-free!

Instead of testing with questions, try strategies like:

  • Labeling what you see.
  • Providing a fill-in-the-blank phrase.
  • Adding a describing word.
  • Adding an action word.
  • Making fun noises and using exclamatory words.
  • Describing what the object is used for.
  • Stating a fact.
  • Etc.

Posted: July 26, 2021

Verbal routines consist of words that are repeated at a predictable time during an activity. A verbal routine happens any time you say the same words, in the same way, for the same things, every time a specific activity occurs. Think “Ready, Set, GO!” “1, 2, 3!” 

Introducing verbal routines into your daily routines can be a great way to promote speech and language skills in children.  The more a child hears the same words in a particular context, the better he associates with what is being said to him. Chances are that after hearing the same word again and again in a language stimulating activity, he might start speaking those words when given an opportunity like when pausing before saying the last word of the verbal routine and giving him to fill in the word.

Verbal routines can be modeled throughout the day during play, people games, singing, reading, and daily routines.  Some examples include:

  • Morning: “Rise and Shine”
  • Brushing teeth: “Brush, brush, brush our teeth.  Make them nice and clean.”
  • Clean-up: “Clean up, clean up, everybody your share.”
  • Chase: “Ready, Set, Go!”
  • Building a tower of blocks and knocking it over: “Up, up, up, up, DOWN!”
  • Blowing bubbles: “Bubble, bubble, POP!
  • Bedtime: “Night, night, sleep tight.”

Many Songs are repetitive in nature and have Verbal Routines. For example:

  • Old MacDonald Had a Farm
  • Wheels on the Bus
  • This is the Way I Brush My Teeth
  • The Ants Go Marching
  • Jelly on the Plate

Many Books use this concept of verbal routines. Some books that encourage verbal routines and repetitive texts include:

  • Brown Bear, Brown Bear by Bill Martin and Eric Carle
  • Panda Bear Panda Bear by Bill Martin and Eric Carle
  • Cat the Cat Who is That? by Mo Willems
  • Pout-Pout Fish by Deborah Diesen
  • Pete the Cat: I love my White Shoes by James Dean and Eric Litwin

You can create your own Verbal Routines depending on your schedule and interests.  Remember, REPITITION IS KEY!  The consistency and repetition of words is needed to help your little one anticipate what comes next.

Posted: July 19, 2021

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Posted: June 28, 2021

Instead of using flashcards to build your child’s vocabulary, try labelling objects that you see throughout your daily routines.  Your child will learn more language by seeing objects in real life and having experiences with them!  For example, when learning a concept like “heavy”, a child is much more likely to learn the word when picking up something heavy during play and you labelling it as “heavy” so they can make that connection to the meaning of the word compared to seeing a picture of something heavy like a big rock or bricks and not actually experiencing how it feels.  Remember, the best way children learn is by being actively engaged during play and daily routines and talking with their parent/caregiver about those experiences.

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